#1 Time I have to be honest. Maybe it’s me, but sometimes we men have to “think” (I mean really think!) about how to relate to our friends and lovers. It’s like sometimes we need a script, a manual, a playbook or some new app to help us along our relational map. Let’s face it! […]

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Let’s Get Dirty

July 17, 2014

So, what were you thinking… What if we did get down and dirty about relationship expectations? Here are my top five expectations that show up in nearly all vibrant relationships. If you have these and become user-friendly with them, you’ll be able swim in the relational mud baths with ease. 1. Expect your relationship to […]

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I DARE YOU

October 31, 2013

I remember as a kid my “friends” saying to me, “I dare you to…” Maybe it was shooting a spitball at the teacher or another student, jumping off the ledge, smoking this, kissing that girl, or whatever. Sometimes I did it. Sometimes I didn’t. I loved the excitement of the challenge. I didn’t like, however, […]

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What Men Want in a Relationship

April 12, 2013

I have discovered a stark contrast between what each sex thinks the opposite sex wants from them, and what the opposite sex really does want. What women think men want from them causes women to have resentment and anger toward men, and feel hopeless about ever developing a wonderful, warm, romantic partnership. What men think […]

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Are You Stuck in a Semi-Happy Marriage?

April 12, 2013

  by Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Manage Your Life editor Thanks to Arnold Schwarzenegger, John Edwards, and now Anthony Weiner, infidelity has been making headlines—and people are reexamining their own relationships. The Pew Research Center recently found that 40 percent of Americans think marriage is becoming obsolete. Another recent Pew study found that Millennials […]

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12 MUSTS for a Successful Long-Term Intimate Relationship

January 31, 2013

12 MUSTS for a Successful Long-Term Intimate Relationship ☐  Two people must embrace the fact that your lives will change, i.e. your stage of life, body, pressures/stresses, etc. Don’t be fooled to believe that your relationship will always be like your dating years. ☐  Two people must be willing to compromise. Rigidity and entitlement breed […]

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Together. Learning From the Past. Shaping Our Future.

December 22, 2012

As I look back over the year, I am surprised by the emotions and memories that well up. I have much to be thankful for, and excited about the possibilities in the new year. I have worked with many of you this year, whether it be an individual, couple, workshop or group basis. I count […]

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Living and Working with Soulfulness

July 30, 2012

It is important for men and women to know who they are, i.e. for me to know who I am. More specifically, it not just for us to know who we are, but for us to know our individual personal mission or purpose. What we bring to the world must come out of our own […]

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Women Want DRACULAS, not just NICE Men

July 27, 2012

I really enjoy working with couples. It’s fulfilling and challenging to help couples make needed changes that bring more connection in their lives. Much of the challenge, however, is that dynamics within a relationship change as often as ocean sand may shift and take on new shapes. One of those new shapes is what I […]

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…Under the Sheets

July 23, 2012

Lots of family cultures have their funny little sayings and gestures at certain events. One such phrase that I’m familiar with is preceded by eating Chinese food. After the meal, we would typically reach for the fortune cookie. Our custom would be to read the phrase out loud and end with “under the sheets.” Some […]

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