Common Issues in Therapy

The following is certainly not meant to be an exhaustive list. It will, however, highlight some of the issues and complexities many have brought to Kevin’s office. If any of these fit for you, consider calling to learn more how you can get help and/or to make an appointment.

Relationship Disconnects | Arousal and Sexuality | Affairs | Addictions | Men’s Issues | Depression and Anxiety | Stress and Anger Management | Parent-Child Conflict | Personal Trauma | Relationship/Date Coaching

Relationship Disconnects
Learn how to improve your relationships with others at home and at work. Enhance your intimate relationships by learning effective and healthy skills. If you are single, you’ll gain knowledge about stress-free dating. If you find yourself in an addictive relationship, develop a means to break this addiction and learn more about healthy boundaries. If you are a parent, learn better parenting approaches that promote lasting memories in your children.

Arousal and Sexuality
People often do know what healthy sexuality truly looks like. Societal messages scream loud to dictate the shoulds or shouldn’ts, or we were not taught about healthy sexuality from our care-givers growing up. Men and women are often left with confusion about one’s image, inner frustrations, dissatisfaction regarding the couple’s sexual connection, and/or fears about sexual performance. You will learn ways to regain a sense of confidence and excitement in your relationship, and guidance in overcoming obstacles to your sexual fulfillment.

Couples suffer when infidelity occurs. It is one of the top “marriage killers” today. Betrayal and anger foster distrust and sadness in the relationship. It is important to learn how to rebuild broken trust in your partner, and possibly rebuild it in your children. If this is your situation, you will learn ways to “contain” the hurt and anger one feels, and find positive ways to communicate your needs with your partner.

Whether it is alcohol and other drugs, sex (extra-marital affairs, excessive masturbation, computer or magazine porn, strip clubs, etc.), eating, gambling, shopping and/or relationship addiction, there are various emotional and psychological needs underlying each. Learn to identify these compulsive patterns and/or cycles in your life, possible causes to each, and effective ways to work through the addiction. The approach to treatment is multi-modal with a variety of processes to help you or a family member to overcome the addiction.

Men’s Issues
In today’s society men are taught certain unspoken messages about their masculinity, e.g. “I must be in control at all times,” or “I’m less of a man if I show my emotions,” or “My body has to be _____ to be attractive. You will learn about healthy masculinity, especially in the context of your intimate relationships, your parenting, your friendships, and your work environment. You will learn how to live within your strengths and gifts, not out of weakness and passivity. Kevin calls men to “Capture their Sacred Masculine Sexuality.”

Depression and Anxiety
Understand your depression and fear, and learn healthy coping skills that sustain you when you might be triggered again. Learn about what might be causing your depression and how to build strong patterns of healthy thinking into your lifestyle. Also, understand the many “faces” of depression and anxiety that you may put on each day in order to cope with the deeper feelings.

Stress and Anger Management
Understand what stress and anger truly are and how to deal with it in your everyday personal and professional life. Learn the difference between eu-stress and distress, and how to express healthy anger. Find out what they do to your health, your relationships, and possibly, your work performance. Learn ways to control your anger, and how to avoid them at home and work.

Parent-Child Conflict
You really love your kids, but they may be driving you “up the wall.” You will learn healthy and respectful parenting skills that will help your child or teenager learn how to get what they need without tearing the family apart. Learn a new emotional language that serves to love and respect yourself and your children at the same time.

Personal Trauma
You don’t have to go to war to experience deep emotional turmoil and despair. Post-Traumatic Stress takes away your sense of personal safety and confidence, i.e. normal living. You may suffer from nightmares, flashbacks, unusual depression and anxiety. Perhaps you are easily startled and/or triggered by certain events or people. If so, you may be suffering from PTS. You’ll find hope as the symptoms decrease over time through your therapy work, particularly through desensitization work.

Relationship/Date Coaching
Often people find themselves “burnt out” or dismayed in dating relationships. They say things like, I just can’t hold down a relationship, or Since I’ve been out of the dating scene so long, I don’t know what to do anymore, or I want to learn how to be more romantic and suave to him/her, or simply What am I supposed to do on the first or second date? It is important to build your confidence in who you are, and how you want to present yourself. You won’t learn ways to get her into bed, or to become someone who you’re not. You will, however, find effectives skills to confidently be yourself.