Posts by Anew Place Counseling Services, Inc.

So, what were you thinking… What if we did get down and dirty about relationship expectations? Here are my top five expectations that show up in nearly all vibrant relationships. If you have these and become user-friendly with them, you’ll be able swim in the relational mud baths with ease. 1. Expect your relationship to be difficult at…

I remember as a kid my “friends” saying to me, “I dare you to…” Maybe it was shooting a spitball at the teacher or another student, jumping off the ledge, smoking this, kissing that girl, or whatever. Sometimes I did it. Sometimes I didn’t. I loved the excitement of the challenge. I didn’t like, however,…

 by Lylah M. Alphonse, Senior Editor, Manage Your Life Thanks to Arnold Schwarzenegger, John Edwards, and now Anthony Weiner, infidelity has been making headlines—and people are reexamining their own relationships. The Pew Research Center recently found that 40 percent of Americans think marriage is becoming obsolete. Another recent Pew study found that Millennials (people age 18 to 29) say they think that…

I have discovered a stark contrast between what each sex thinks the opposite sex wants from them, and what the opposite sex really does want. What women think men want from them causes women to have resentment and anger toward men, and feel hopeless about ever developing a wonderful, warm, romantic partnership. What men think…

As I look back over the year, I am surprised by the emotions and memories that well up. I have much to be thankful for, and excited about the possibilities in the new year. I have worked with many of you this year, whether it be an individual, couple, workshop or group basis. I count…

It is important for men and women to know who they are, i.e. for me to know who I am. More specifically, it not just for us to know who we are, but for us to know our individual personal mission or purpose. What we bring to the world must come out of our own…

I really enjoy working with couples. It’s fulfilling and challenging to help couples make needed changes that bring more connection in their lives. Much of the challenge, however, is that dynamics within a relationship change as often as ocean sand may shift and take on new shapes. One of those new shapes is what I hear a…

Lots of family cultures have their funny little sayings and gestures at certain events. One such phrase that I’m familiar with is preceded by eating Chinese food. After the meal, we would typically reach for the fortune cookie. Our custom would be to read the phrase out loud and end with “under the sheets.” Some…